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I have been out of work since February 2010 and actively looking for work but I haven’t had much luck.  My house is in foreclosure and the utilities are being shut off one by one.  I need help/advice.

I am a single parent of three kids well they aren’t kids anymore.  I have a daughter who is 21 she’s a student nurse in college to obtain her RN, I have a son he’s 20 he is an electrician and starts his last year of apprenticeship and my youngest son who is 18 he is a welder and fantastic baseball player, he graduated high school this year and a college picked him up and he got a 2 year scholarship for his pitching abilities for baseball.  All three of them are great people they have their own vehicles, pay their own car insurance, car payments, cell phone bills, personal needs and their own food and still manage to try to help me the best they can.  They even pay for their own school things and medical expenses.

I was with a man for 16 years we never married.  We had decided for me to by the house which was my grandparent’s and they had bought it the month and year I was born.  A year after I bought the house I lost my job and he walked out on me.  When he left I was devastated, I wasn’t expecting it at all what so ever.  The money I wish I had today that I paid in tolls to drive on top of the bridge near my house and just jump I would have a lot of money.

Actually a year ago I had a nervous breakdown and my daughter had me admitted into a mental hospital actually that was two years ago.  They wouldn’t release me unless she signed me out or the doctor released me.  I called her crying I just remember her words exactly “Mom you need help enough because we need our mom back” I knew she was right so I stayed it ended up being seven days.  There I was diagnosed with Bipolar I and a Manic Depressant I am medicated but I feel I am alone and I will never be normal!  I don’t have friends because I just can’t handle drama and my family isn’t much support with this condition they don’t know how to handle me nor do they try.  I haven’t done much right in my life but with these three I have.

I have a hard time trusting people! I always try to help others and make others happy instead of myself! I put everyone else before me! In the end I always turn out to be the bad person! My self-esteem is low and I need to work more on me and the hell with helping others!  I hate silence I cannot sit in a room with silence that just brings my worst enemy out who is my mind! 

I do enjoy different types of music and reading.  I find relaxation in crocheting, I find my laughter and to keep living life in my 3 precious kids.  I do enjoy the beach, skiing and I love baseball!

The Philadelphia Phillies are my favorite team.  My daughter and I coached a T-ball team this year for the first time and we had a blast it was so much fun we are doing next year and we didn’t even know any of the kids or the parent’s we did it to get me out of the house and to help my mind.

But I am here for any help or advice anyone can give me at all!

Thank you to all of you in advance for you advice and help!

Daneta

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I am a wife and a mother. We, as a family, have found ourselves in struggle after struggle since moving to Dothan, AL to be close to family. I am at the very verge of not being able to deal with another setback. My extended family is one with means- LOTS of means- that look down upon us for not being as successful as they are. There is a reason for that the family will never speak about. My family owned a chain of restaurants when I was young...and when the bottom fell out my father took the brunt to save not only my grandfathers reputation, but the credit of his two younger brothers. Since my father was the eldest he felt this was something that he needed to do.

Well, since then, we have all suffered. Except for my grandfather, my uncles and their kids. My college fund was significant and I was a bright kid that was in gifted classes with my choice of schools. I had to go to school only when we could afford it- and no one in my family offered to help me. My car was even sold, after a minor fender bender to help my father pay his back taxes.

Its years later and I am in distress with my three boys and my husband. The economy hit us in the gut...and this started several years ago.

At this time, my husband is desperately looking for work and of course, its hard. He is 39 and is being passed over for younger workers even though he went back to school in 2003 and graduated with the degree that my family REQUIRED for him to be taken seriously. See, my cousins and my uncles all have bachelors, masters, and doctorates. We are not WORTH helping because they think that somehow we deserve this.

How easily they forget that they would not have what they have had my father and myself not given up so much so that they might prosper.

I will have my power cut off on Tuesday. I have to pay it tomorrow. My rent has not been paid. We have a pre paid cell that is our only phone. We gave up cable and internet 6 months ago- I am several blocks from home at my mothers using her laptop as I often find myself doing. We are frugal, smart, good people. I have 15 year old twins that start school tomorrow that cannot even enjoy that because they will wonder all day if the power will be off tuesday. I beg them to be kids, to let me and Daddy take care of it...but I have been blessed with big hearted and wonderful kids. I have tried to hide this from them but cannot...they just know when something is wrong. I wish that I could pay my bills. I certainly do not want to be in this situation, I wish that I wasn't. I wish my family would please just HELP us. I hear too much that "they don't OWE you anything" from my conservative family but I am not saying that they do.  I just wish that they could find it in their hearts to help. They love my kids- I cannot understand why they would want them in an apartment with no power. I mean, this is lower Alabama, the heat is awful.

I don't want to complain...and I don't want handouts. I just simply need help. We wish and hope and pray that maybe, just maybe there is a program that helps decent people get back on their feet. This has taken the wind out of our sails. We are emotionally drained- and it feels like I am walking with cement on my body. Or like trying to breathe underwater. I don't know. I just need help and need a place to vent. I am sorry y'all. I just needed to talk.

Thanks to anyone that is listening,

Sarah H. 

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Hello - my name is Alysia Arrue and I am a married mother of two children - ages 3 yrs and 2 yrs - and four months pregnant with our third child. My husband was laid off from his job on October 9, 2008 and I was laid off from mine on November 10, 2008. Our bills are piling up and the stress is taking its toll on me physically and emotionally. I have right now about thirty dollars in my wallet; rent ($900.00) is due on Thursday, Jan. 1, 2008... I have a light bill due from this month on Jan 8th, 2008 (payment extension) and also the regular monthly electricity bill for January is due on the 3rd of Jan. We owe $200.00 on our car note, they are saying they are ready to come pick it up. I have no where to turn, I've tried everything I can think of, including pawning some things from my home. Turns out, nothing I have is of any value...

 If there is anyone out there, anyone at all, that is able and willing to help my family out, please please please let me know. Even if it is only a loan, I promise we can pay it back once my husband finds a job and we can get back on our feet. I've never done one of these posts before, but I'm at the end of my options. I just pray that there is someone out there who can help us before it is too late. 

God bless you all!

Alysia Arrue

email: alysiarice@yahoo.com

I have never had to ask anyone for help and I can honestly state that this past year has been a rough one for me.  I going through a rough divorce and recently became unemployed.  I am a hard working individual and feel that within 3 months I will be back on my feet; however, at this point I just need funds to pay my rent, utilities, and car insurance.  I am looking for employment and believe that I will not have a problem in finding a job.  The reason why I am unemployed is simply that my recent employer encountered financial problems and has been unable to pay me my last month's wages.  I am working to recover those wages; however, the bills are due.  I need about $1,500 to pay $1,069 in rent and late fees that were due on January 1, $61 to pay the electric bill that is due on January 11, $186 to pay for car insurance, and some money for food and gas.  As I stated previously, I will get back on my feet, one day I will again be successful, and I will find ways to help other people who find themselves in the situation that I am in.  Please do not hesitate to contact me or ask me any questions.  I am also a veteren who proudly served my country as a Marine during the 1991 Gulf War.  Please help or provide assistance any way you can.  Thank you.